Love

One complains that one is not loved, appreciated, cared for, valued...One constantly complains that one is not made the centre of others' lives. One expresses disappointment that one is not treated as importantly as one should be treated, One isn't significant...

It makes me wonder.  How does one expect to be loved, cared for, appreciated, valued, made the centre of others' lives, treated importantly and significantly when one does not in any way display all these emotions towards one's own self.  Strange, how we look elsewhere for love, appreciation, recognition and acceptance when we do nothing to show that we love ourselves. We constantly place ourselves at other people's scrutiny, criticism, annoyance, disgust, anger when we could pretty well keep ourselves away from all these.

  We are reckless in our behaviour, we do not know how to give respect but are annoyed that others do not respect us.  We are never punctual but are annoyed when others are late. We undermine others' credibility but are irritated and angered when we are belittled.

the list goes on.....

We expect others to accommodate our character flaws but display no tolerance for that of others. 

We constantly feed out minds with unhealthy thoughts; greed, envy, hatred and feed our bodies with cigarette smoke, drugs, alcoholic beverages, unhealthy food (which i am guilty of) and we complain that we are not loved!

The way to love ourselves is just one; just stop, ponder for second before deciding to act- anger? Am i going to utter a nasty word or remain silent and choose to speak up much later when i am calmer, or...If i am hungry, do i stuff my face with anything available at the moment or am i going to be selective of what i eat? Why don't i leave early so that i reach on time or quit smoking, stop and smell the flowers whenever i can. 

The question is...do i want to...love myself?